Why Lie to The Children?

Truth and falsehood are intertwined in our lives. Typically, we adults are well aware, what distorts or ignores the true state of affairs. And children? What motivates them to invent naive incredible stories, to expose that sometimes there is no difficulty?

Kids do not lie. Until about the age of four, they generally do not distinguish between the concepts of "lies" and "truth" any allegation accept at face value, do and say whatever they want. To achieve their goals, they just express their desires and emotions - crying, or arrange hysterical scandals, if parents ignore their requests.

Since the beginning of the formation of creative thinking the picture changes. Begins a period of "white lies. At this stage, the distortion of the truth - is quite a natural phenomenon. Children fantasize and tell different stories, confused and unable to separate truth from fiction, wishful thinking. No need to punish a child for the imagination. On the contrary, it should be encouraged and given every opportunity to develop creative thinking.

Deliberate lie is about the age of ten, with the advent of the capacity for reflection. But the period of childhood fantasies can and delayed if the child has a need for this. Virtuoso lied, he drew attention to themselves to look better and gain prestige among peers.

Sometimes, the child is so fond of telling lies that almost does not tell the truth. Live in the fictional world it is easier than real. The reason is that these children lack the understanding and sympathy, peers do not take them into their circle.

Aggressive children tend to lie less than obedient good girl. Manifestation of aggression - direct (fight) or verbal (swearing) - allows the one hand, let off steam, on the other - raise the credibility of the aggressor in tineydzherskoy environment.

Girls are more peaceful than boys, more emotional, irrational and resentful. Therefore, saving for the image lies found in their environment much more often.

Awareness of lies as such, what is bad, usually causes the child-specific external reaction, allowing easy to understand that the child is cheating. For example, involuntary attempt to cover her mouth, the excitement and glow on the cheeks, frequent blinking, a reluctance to look into the eyes, or, conversely, defiant "honest" opinion. The child feels guilty, afraid of being exposed. To lie sounded convincing, he begins to look up words, pronounce them hesitantly, with unusual intonation. Who knows, "Son," a better parent? Pay attention to the nuances of speech, behavior, and everything will fall into place.

Psychologists do not recommend punishing the little liar. Analyze the motivation lies. Can you blame yourself? Maybe your requirements are excessive, and lies - an attempt to facilitate children's natural life?

Give your child understand that a lie is not necessary that you love him, accept and support in any situation. If so, and scolding, do not baby, and his actions. And do not forget to praise for the sincerity. For the fact that even in difficult situations a son or daughter found the strength to all fairly and without reserve to tell her parents.

When and Why to Say "NO"?

If we want to open yourself up again and live this life, we must find the courage to say no to those things which do not serve us - Barbara De Angelis.

Sometimes there are situations when you do not say "no" is simply impossible. For example, a colleague wants to "ask you a favor, and you and themselves worries mouthful, let alone other people's problems to you! But for some reason we are sometimes willing to sacrifice themselves in order to please others, and so at the request of doom say: "Yes" - mentally already wondering what we have to sacrifice.

Unwillingness to give the failure may be caused by many reasons. Fear of being branded vredinoy, fear to offend people, lose his confidence, etc. Often encountered people who, in addition to their own duties still a bunch of strangers, instead of getting only frustration and discontent itself.

Where did this strange desire to please everyone? A person's character is laid in childhood. We are soft, like clay, and absorb other people's words and behavior, like a sponge, so one of us can create any sort of personality. Unfortunately, some parents confuse well-mannered child and trained dogs. Often, aid - the only thing children receive encouragement. Unfortunately, children still difficult to understand the difference between the desire to serve and help. As an adult, a person instinctively waiting for their service award as a child, but, of course, does not get it.

Is this desire? No one says that the same assistance to parents - it's bad, and the child must do everything in spite of their parents, to any sensible request for responding to a sharp "no". However, an important role here is motivation. Not "a good boy, brought the" five ", pleased parents", and "how well you like to learn how much you know and you know how!". In general, "forget about yourself, do to others" - the theory is not true, unless you're a masochist.

How many times have you helped your colleagues, friends, relatives who artlessly dump on you all their problems, and how many times you were actually rewarded for it? Unfortunately, wait, that one fine morning you wake up and you will fall thanks and benefits provided to you once the service is not necessary. And then who will think of yourself?

A situation where I must say "no." Usually the man himself recognizes this situation. Are you familiar with anticipation when you hear the telephone voice of friend that you now again, something will be asked? And you even know where you have such a belief: there was not one time that she did not ask about the next service.

It is worth considering: Are there really is good for you dating? Are you getting some benefit from communicating with this person? And if you ask the same thing that will tell you?

You've probably heard something like: "Ivanov - vredina. About anything ask the impossible! And earns a best! "? Or maybe not so bad? And that Ivanov - not a bad person, he simply knows his worth and can not ride on his colleagues and boss - free to exploit their labor?

Around a lot of successful people envious, but these people secretly admire and want to be like them, here are taken from this and similar slander. To tell you the truth, such talk is still very few people from the harms discussed.

Perhaps, you have to start saying "no" when you really want to refuse? You will have more free time, there will be a sense of confidence in myself: I'm doing as I want!

Why Do Not We Love Those Who Love Us Now?

There was a time when men like and women allowed or not allowed, the men offered, and the women agreed or refused. Active side lived hopes and rivalry, passive - suspenseful and fear that rejected passable version of the proposal will not repeat, but the best will not. If supply and demand anything like match, then there is an everlasting covenant, which is most often a woman asked to swallow pride and expect that "endure. Decision was made once and for all, by having a couple became isolated in his little world family and those who had yet to make a choice of love, his presence is not embarrassed. But how many passions, when two men rushed at once to one of beauty! Love Triangle, a favorite theme of world literature, the most powerful experience in a variety of fates.

Now is not that. There was a couple - and okay, so be it. Pray thee together and get loose. And while they are bored with each other, we can increase their attractiveness and attention to strengthen the interest to yourself.

Bright and dangerous rivalry - why? What did not work right, you get then, we just have to wait for the moment, to want a lot and believe in yourself. Any student group - it is only increasing with time, the number of elections, because the constancy of a temporary and a new girlfriend - is access to the circle of her friends, a new friend - a breakthrough in the community of his friends. Anyone who wants more than worth it, get a chance tomorrow, more than it has today.

Thus, there exists a pair can not be regarded as a pair, there are only different values of boys and girls, each with its own height, and everyone looks for a partner higher. Most often in the next step above, because the local gods and goddesses, too, see no way down, and either equal or superior to, living somewhere outside of the group. It turns out that the inferior fellow N waiting for something from the more or less a decent girl M, and she wondered at least something worth L, and L, in turn, clings to a rather attractive to, but also has to accept someone much better than K. And so on.

Where love triangles? They would, if standing a step above mentioned strict "no", but no one hears a fool to hurt the bottom, their support and encouragement. Is that in case of excessive activity would have to put them into place. But why should anybody be lower risk if the favorite is not afraid to lose: the selection is great and a lot of time, no one takes a single - forever.

Live in love zigzags: love the best, loved the worst. Little reciprocity, reliability, and even less. In the 30 years of thinking about the same, as in 25, 20 and 15, because at maturity can not solve the problem of youth. Career doing, because it increases the attractiveness and circle of friends expands, the house somehow take care, we must also somewhere to invite friends, but the kids start, and given their upbringing - it's silly, because at any moment of a partner for a better share. Moreover, the more support and help, sacrificing himself, the sooner he does, because the winner taking on new resources and leaving sharply upward, mercilessly tearing the attachment. This is our young days, and fun for the daring, zigzag darted behind his success, and kills the innocent.

How We Appreciate the Friendship?

Relationships hold in our lives too much space. Every day we are dealing with a lot of people. Everyone wants to find his life a man who would understand him, appreciated, loved, respected. In every period of his life next to a friend. The new year may bring new friends, but that does not mean that we forget the old friends. Just a man grows, develops, and, accordingly, changed its environment.

Sometimes, meeting a person, we feel sympathy, sometimes indifferent, and sometimes rejection. Of course, we are all different, like everyone is just impossible. That's why we so want to always be near the man whom we can proudly call a friend (or girlfriend).

A man who, despite everything, can always give peace of communication, compassion, empathy and support. Your friend can call at any time, you can relax together, and the best way possible. We can discuss everything you want to discuss.

How do you determine whether your friend is "soul mate"?

Must, above all, pay attention to unusual coincidences. Is this: just think about his friend, as he calls or comes from him sms or email to e-mail. Or suddenly becomes hard on the soul, as if a cat scratch. And here: rraz! - Comes to visit your best friend. Uplifting, happy or just silently listen. Not doing anything without asking, can you reveal your soul, throw out everything that has accumulated.

Sometimes you call a friend and you think: now invited for the weekend to relax together (or something else), and he tells you what it would do just that. That is all the time are the same desires, thoughts, and where each of them there is ineffable joy. From the meeting, from the discussion of ideas. Of course, this is important also the fact that more often between friends, a lot of common interests. But I still think that this is not important.

We appreciate those who to feel affection (often a desire to make a call, talk, see). We appreciate and support. Today you have listened and supported each other, and tomorrow he will do the same. And each does so without coercion, without thinking that he owes. Desire comes from the heart.

Today, friendships can be quite different. For example, the Internet also allows you to find another. You can even never saw a man build a very trusting, frank and friendly relations. Moreover, such relations would be associated with not less close ties than the other, a neighbor living with you in one yard or one landing. Maybe someone is very difficult to believe that the virtual friendship can exist. But six years of communication via the Internet, I saw that a lot of evidence, and saw not only from the outside. And the most valuable in these respects it is - an opportunity to be yourself. Is not it is valued in good terms?

Know whether the friendship is possible only through many years. And then, perhaps, the key is just one criterion - the betrayal. Betray easily. Must always remember that friendship is created over the years, and betrayal destroys everything in an instant!

How to Stay With A Man With Just Friends?

How to do it?

First, you need to understand the man that you want from men is friendship, and not something else.

That is, firstly, you need to talk to him and explain that he was only interested in you as a friend, that as a future spouse to you it is not suitable.

Do not go into details, we should not belittle his manhood.

Suffice it to say that it just is not your style, for example. To say that you value his kindness, eloquence, and so forth, but it just - is not your type.

By the way, before the man said it all, to soften the blow, do not forget to make a man a compliment and highlight its advantages, its winning features. Compliment must necessarily be sincere and truthful.

Of course, there is a chance that after the man of your words just turn around and leave.But there is a chance that he will agree with this situation and really become your friend.

You'll call back, chat, maybe go somewhere together, and this relationship will remain friendly. That is, any hints on the future life together and sex is no longer. Here you can clearly define its position. In this case, stop flirting with him, to refrain from gestures that a man may be regarded ambiguously. Do not dress for it and try to lure him to behave modestly.

That is translating into the category of relations of friendship. Almost like a girlfriend, we can say attitude.

Those men who do not like the role of a friend, turn around and simply go away from you. And do not refer such a deed to his account. Since all people are different and can not be held around absolutely everyone. Just remember you. If a man offers you friendship and you hope for more, it is unlikely that you will want to continue a relationship with him.

Therefore, if a man makes such a decision, you should not condemn him for it. Someone will be with you, some do not. And it is absolutely normal.

Friendship implies mutual pastime mutual support. Of those men who agree to become your friends, it is unlikely all the polls will be the names of friends in the full sense of the word.

Most will simply pass into the category of friends with whom you regularly call back periodically communicate at the level of "hi-bye." This is normal.

Or do you want to be friends with absolutely all men with whom you have ever come across? I do not understand why you all this male harem? The fact that some men would take forever, perfectly normal, so be it.

Therefore, I advise you just to talk with a man, explain the situation, well, the choice to leave behind the man. As he decides, so be it.

Good luck!

What Men Do Like Women?

Women, however, like men, large owners! And naturally, the best man that which thy. Then he did the most wonderful, most dear, most beloved. Still, sometimes unconsciously, sometimes consciously women define for themselves some of the criteria, which are crucial when choosing a life partner.

What kind of man needed her?

In fact, when I ask this question of married women - I get a surprising answer. Or maybe he is not amazing? In any case, the answer is simple: the main thing that he loved me and the children.

If the same question to ask a lonely girl (young woman), then the answer is always a long one. Like the list. Smart, handsome, decent, strong, fairly wealthy, growing, and so on. Much more is contained in the sample. But the most important thing is forgotten. Or simply glossed over? However, it turns out that forgotten the most important, in my opinion. It often, Free, the thirsty man - forget that, all the same thing to a love!

Spark! Attraction! Emotions! The desire to be near, always see Him. If all this comes in, the Nature in the woman, she, of course, forget about all your "perfect fit".

So, what are they, "the ideal setup?

Almost every woman dreams of a strong-willed man. That such a man is admired by women. But not every woman is ready to admit it. Of course, in this situation, the main thing that has not been bent. Volitional - it does not mean that "I said, so be it." Strong-willed, it will feel when his woman. He thinks, and then gently say: 'Honey, I think the best way - it .... " And she will silently and submissively. If with something that disagrees, it is a strong-willed man would be able to find the strength and, most importantly, the desire to listen to his favorite woman. And she certainly try to express their views carefully, with affection and tenderness. In any case not diminished by his merits, but merely raising.

Women have always admired those men who are popular, often being in the spotlight. Why? What is important is fame? I think, not quite. Fame, of course, the fact that flatter the female ego (after all, to win such a man is not easy). But there is one more subtlety. A well-known man - it's often smart, purposeful, with a good sense of humor and most importantly - an excellent companion! But every woman knows that the time will come when they stay alone, when the dust and the heat will pass and will remain simple, usually in the evening. So, pass the evening will be much nicer if the conversation will be interesting to both.

Of course, women like gentle men. Those who will be able to give affection, to evaluate care. When a woman brings her husband coffee in bed, or in the morning, as usual, make breakfast, and maybe ironed shirt, it will actually be very nice to hear - "You are the most the most! My favorite. "

No one has repealed the truth known to all, "the woman loves the ears." Hence, no less important is the ability to man to pay compliments. Uttered without irony, with sincerity, they bribe any woman. But the main thing to take into account that women are very well aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Must be able to choose a suitable compliment, and successfully present it!

Also, women appreciate men - leaders. After all, a leader - someone who can take responsibility. And not only for their lives, but for the life of the woman, and, of course, for the children.

List goes on, it seems to infinity. This neatness, and sexuality, and the seriousness and care, and interpersonal skills.

For women, it is important to decent to them. When he appreciates, cares, loves, surrounded by attention, surprises. After all, man - it is the stronger sex. And it is precisely with such a man a woman can afford to relax, give yourself into the abyss of emotions.

How to Easily Win the Sympathy of Others?

He tries all to please, and precisely because What he is trying to please everyone, He does not like anyone.

Unfortunately, I do not remember who wrote these lines, but are captured very accurately!
You can not please everybody!

And yet ...
When you please others, they forgive your mistakes, relate to you better, more lenient, and generally make your life easier. Much!

Idle Americans even figured out that even the employees of large firms, employees, salaries can vary up to 15% with the same qualifications, but for different supervisor. Revenue is pretty unsympathetic and seller, running on a percentage of the transaction may differ by orders of magnitude (tens, hundreds and sometimes thousands of times)!

In general, cause sympathy is simply good!
Therefore, we begin immediately to learn this difficult case.

Here are a few simple rules:
1. Smile! Sincerely, generally, have fun! A fake smile only hurt you, unless you're a professional actor (or actress, who sleeps in every woman).

2. Ask for advice. This raises the self esteem of another person and is not perceived as flattery.

3. Ask for help for your small, easy for another person's service. If he fails, at least thank him for what he heard you. If you refer to it again, your chances to get what you want to be much higher.

4. Create a semblance of similarity with another person. People tend to sympathize with those who are similar to themselves at least somewhat.

5. To pay compliments. First, in the case, then, with increasing professionalism, and for no reason, just because!

6. Never speak about the missing person is bad, but good! No comments.

7. If you absolutely do not agree with the reviewer, you must first agree in the details and do not settle in the main. Then to you will be treated with greater sympathy, even if you insist on his own.

8. Talk less, listen more! Most people feel genuine sympathy for a man who can "complain". Just please do not disclose another's secret. And yet, listening, be sure to Demonstrate feedback, even if affirmative nod.

9. Increase your physical attractiveness, physical activity. If you're over thirty, try to look younger than his years. This applies not only to women!

10. Often mention the name of a person in a conversation with him. Name - is the key to the soul of another person. Turning to the stranger, first find out his name.

11. If you're upset about something or frustrated, try to calm down. Irritated people automatically provokes a negative reaction. Frustrated, unfortunately, too.

12. Demonstrate humility!
Clever and no one likes boasters! Remember how many privileges took Ivan the Fool (and the princess as a wife and half his kingdom into the bargain)!

Still, the most important advice.
Stay himself (itself) is. The most charismatic people - those who in all conditions remain ourselves!

What is The Story of St. Valentine's Day?

Literally, no more than ten years ago from Europe, our country has come a holiday whose popularity at the moment is very high. This holiday - Valentine's Day or Valentine's Day, and we celebrate it on February 14.
Although he is not an official, but I at least I do not know a single person who does not know of his existence, but about history knows it is not all. Its what I want to tell you.

Valentin walks of life are many legends, but know for certain only that he lived in Italy during the reign of Emperor Claudius II, who was very proud of the military prowess of his men and not so favored Christians. To preserve the military spirit of the emperor issued an edict forbidding soldiers to marry, because I thought that went into marriage too much time in the family and not busy planning for the welfare of the empire and military prowess, but his family home. Despite the imperial ban, a young priest (according to some sources, the bishop) was crowned Valentine secretly in love soldiers. There are also legends that somehow Valentin healed the blind daughter of one of Roman dignitaries, after which she fell in love with him.

Secret activity Valentine short time was a secret, and soon the rumor about her came to the emperor. The enraged emperor ordered the execution of a priest. The execution was carried out on February 14 269 years. They say also that on the night before his execution, Valentine wrote a letter full of feelings, a girl he had healed. It's just a guess, and how it was actually, we do not know and will never know, but one thing is certain - Valentine really was killed in the name of love. That's why on Valentine had not forgotten, and was elected patron saint of lovers. As a Christian martyr who suffered for their faith, he was canonized by the Catholic Church.

In Europe, the Valentine's day is celebrated with XIII, in the U.S. since the XVIII century, and at the end of XX century and came to us and gave us the opportunity at least once a year fully express all my love to our families and to show how much we love them, or to say easier - to express the feelings that we forget the rest 364 days of the year.

After learning about the history of this holiday, you could not help wonder - as well as generally accepted to celebrate it?

Traditionally, this day does not involve a great pomposity. Usually in love with this day exchanged small a token of love, the greatest popularity in our time gained fashion to give the so-called "valentines." Valentine - love letters, stanzas were first introduced gallant Frenchmen.

If you do not want to be limited to a "valentine" that in addition to it, you can still give a lot of various "signs of their love." The most extended ones kinds of souvenirs and gifts are the sweets: cookies, candy, chocolate, made in the shape of a heart.

You can also donate clothes, pets, about which so long dreamed your soul mate, romantic trips, "lucky" lottery tickets, sliced sausage hearts. Or even come up with something different.

This day is considered ideal for marriage proposal. Imagine the face of your second half, when a champagne and dessert, you stretch the box with the so-called "ring on her engagement." That's the case ...

So do not waste any opportunity and use this day to say the warmest, most intimate, the most desirable and expensive words to the man who next to you. And also open the heart to someone about the dream ...
And be happy!

What is The Effect Kisses on Our Bodies?

It is hard to imagine, but a kiss on his usual form for a long time was not known to Polynesians, the inhabitants of Madagascar, the many tribes in Africa, Eskimos, Japanese, Chinese and many other nations.

The Chinese, for example, from ancient times instead of kissing just rubbed noses. Burmese and still do not kiss, but only touch her lips and noses - "smelled" of each other. Japanese kissing very modestly, without opening his lips, looking at the same time on both sides so that no one noticed - shy.

Kissing ritual - the greatest badge of honor and friendship provided by the Russian guests, in Russia in 16-17 centuries. is a complex action, which included a mutual exchange of bows and drinking wine together. " After refreshments the owner told his wife, gorgeously dressed, go to the guest, and sip a glass of vodka, to give him his own. Sometimes the visitor as a sign of a special arrangement allowed to kiss the hostess in the mouth. According to historians, Russian, treating guests, give him his wife that he and everybody kissed her lips, and her husband calmly looks at it, and nobody can not kiss her, and then kicked out of the house. "

What is a kiss? Shakespeare calls it "the seal of our love," a witty Koleridzh says that a kiss - it's "nectar breathing, and Van de Velde believes that this is just a" pleasure paradise ". A simpler but more accurate from a medical point of view, the definition can be found in the dictionary of sexology terms and concepts.

Who, when and how the first kiss, is unknown. On this account, there are many interesting and improbable theories. One of them says that in ancient times people believed if breathing contains the soul and all the forces of man. Therefore, the connection of breath kissing called the wedding shower. Before the kiss was a sign of confidence. Giving another person to come to him so close, people showed that they are not afraid of it, which completely trust him.

During a kiss four senses - touch, smell, taste and sight - are stretched to the limit: they are engaged in learning partner. The main element of a kiss are the lips. Lips are very sensitive organ: one square centimeter here come to the surface 200 of nerve endings. Thousands of taste buds try to love the taste. Perhaps that is why love is called "sweet", and betrayal - "bitter."

Erotic lexicon leads the classification of kisses. It turns out they are dry and wet, deep and shallow, cool and sensuous. The most famous and popular is the so-called "French Kiss".

If love does not satisfy one kiss, they mix several of them. Here the main thing - creativity and surprise. You can start with a simple kiss, which is in full swing can go in posasyvanie lips, then replaced the vacuum kiss, and ends, having several stages, as well as begin - the usual kiss on the lips. Options then you can invent an infinite set.

The manner of kissing can even determine the temperament and character of the partner: if he travels on a wondrous spaces lips, kissing your ear, my neck, but not close to her lips and trying not to look in your eyes - the "hidden experimenter. He is a very sensual lover. And if you gently touch his forehead with his lips, gently kissing the cheek, like a soft brush whisks away dust with a valuable acquisition - that he "curator" This is evidence of tenderness and respect. With it you can feel safe. He will not let you down. Should be wary of "erotic vampire." He bites into your mouth as if going to suck out your soul. After kissing his lips hurt, but the tongue is covered with bruises. It is better to have a "lover - another." Before the kiss, he takes your head in your hands. Kisses, looking into your eyes. His lips slightly compressed, as if he fears that wet kiss may be too familiar. He loves to be with you. A "teddy bear" face closer to your face, hums and concerns you protruding lips, as if calling: "Beris for business." He wants to have loved and kissed him. If you love to dominate in all, it better do not you find it.

Turns out to be a kiss - it's not only a "pleasure paradise":

1. Doctors found that the "lingering" kiss a beneficial effect on our circulatory system. Indeed, during kissing pulse quickens to 110 beats per minute. This is - a great cardiovascular workout system.

2. Kiss each other more often! This is quite seriously recommend reputable Western Dental his wards, spending hundreds of dollars on treatment and prosthetics. The whole point is that a kiss is not just promoting salivation, but also increase the calcium in saliva, significantly reduces the risk of dental caries.

3. Kissing as often as possible call by German scientists. Passionate kisses are good for health. This is a good exercise - it is actively involved 34 facial muscles and burn up 150 calories, both during the 15-minute swim the crawl.

4. Kissing, we will share 9 mg of water, 0.7 g albumin, 0.18 g of organic matter, 0.7 mg fat, 0.45 mg of salt and ... 250 bacteria! But this does not mean mortal danger. In every human saliva contains enzymes and antibodies, able to withstand any infection. Besides, saliva contains androsterone - a substance stimulating sexual desire.

5. Women place greater importance on kissing than men do. Some of the women's claims that reaches orgasm from kissing. This phenomenon occurs in about 1-2% of the fairer sex.

6. Breath-holding by kissing a beneficial effect on the body - enough to remember the different techniques improving respiration, such, for example, as Pranayama Yoga. Even if not all kissing fall on "Seventh Heaven", endorphins, evolved at the same time in the blood and having narcotic effect, give a feeling of bliss and peace.

Kiss, hug, give each other affection!

What You Need to Know the Newlyweds and How to Cope With Relatives?

Wedding dress, white veil, pink lips, brown eyes. For you it is a miracle of miracles, for it you become the best of the brides ...

As is well known stormy relationship between a man and a woman ends a marriage, or one of its addresses. And if earlier, before a wedding, the young had to pass a series of trials related to this ordinance, now many can be avoided:

- Parents, I'm getting married!
- Mom and Dad, I'm getting married ...

It was such a carefree attitude towards the parents (say, my life that I want, and I do) can continue to destroy marriage. Parents - people wise, but very demanding, and if the young, it is important that they are in a relationship now, the older generation, it is important that their children will in the future.

Parents are guided only by their experience and mistakes. For young marriage - as a result of their friendly relations, a kind of proof of eternal love and devotion. Though a great poet YM Lermontov wrote:
Love, but whom? At the time, not worth the effort, but it is impossible to love forever ...

With this, of course, is debatable, but either way, all points of the "I" will put the married life. And now the couple - is a link between two families: parents, husband and wife's parents. This is where problems may arise, often domestic plan.

Housing problem remains, for many young couples open. At first, have to live with their parents. Now come to the fore: mother-in-law - father-in-law. Pleasing everyone is impossible, and family conflicts to anything. It so happened that hostile attitudes and mother-in-law, father-in law considered to be traditional. Since every mother wants her child only good, it sometimes forgets the fact that excessive involvement in the fate of the young can lead to family drama.

But the paradoxes inherent in our lives, it happens that the mother-in-law in zyate denotes no soul, and the test once all eyeing with suspicion of her husband's daughter. Often this is because a lot of love for her child, the fear that her daughter might offend, to hurt her. Father, most often, does not want to see that my daughter has grown and she has her own family.

The time of the first:
Daughter to explain her father that she loves this man. He (her husband) - its support and protection, and it is the man for the role of the father of her children. Further, the husband and wife need to talk to his father, as befits a man.

Moment Two:
It so happens that my mother my husband (in-law) can not find mutual understanding with the young bride. Love for my son - it is understandable, but sometimes such a boundless love becomes a stumbling block in family relationships. As is known, two housewives in one kitchen does not get along, and this household's theorem is proven. Women tend rivalry, and there is no longer important, because someone: her husband, son or brother. The main thing - it's a man. Mom (mother in law) says that no other woman can not love her child as she is. Mother-in-first tries to teach all the young in law, thereby undermining the authority of the matchmaker, then insisted on his ...

In such situations, suffering mostly the same man, because of which, indeed, the entire race. Quarrel between two loving and loved woman experiences it as painful as the repair. As a result, the loser may go and my mother in, and the young wife. Worst of all, if peace and solace to the man begins to look on the side. That's when the problems begin more abruptly than in Mexican soap operas, and the victory will be in the hands of a wise woman. A young wife and mother her husband just need to find a compromise, for the happiness of her beloved husband and son. This is a great deal of work on oneself, one must be able to hear if there is a chance to be heard.

Moment Three:
Important in family relationships - is understanding among all family members. If a young family lives with the parents of one of the spouses, the young must be able to compromise somewhere to keep silent, to solve problems together. Parents, in turn, must respect the views of children and deprive them of their independence. You can not split the family into two opposing camps.

If young people are lucky and the housing problem resolved, then the mother-in-law and mother in law will be much softer in their councils, because in a strange monastery with its charter, not walk. But how well will gather for a great feast the whole family in the house of the young. Here a young lady and will manifest itself in all its glory.

Relationships - they are out and the relationship to them to learn and be able to build. But how? It depends on the person. Folk wisdom says: "Gentle calf sucks two ewes."

Why Ruin Oneself by Drink With Disabilities

For many centuries, finds the most effective means and ways to guard people from the harmful effects of alcohol. Today it came to that, even among people with disabilities number of abusers of alcohol and drugs has increased several times. This is despite the fact that many of them live in nursing homes at full state support.

What is it, why is this happening? The question is not rhetorical, but vital, requiring not only the attention of the competent authorities, but also operational and constructive solutions to the state level.

One of the main causes - a significant enhancement of a range of socio-economic reasons, causes and conditions that trigger the initiation of the broad masses of the population to alcohol (socio-economic instability, disorder in the material and the domestic sphere, etc.). Hence - as a result - a steady increase in alcohol consumption and psychological predisposition to deviations from the accepted norms of morality.

Another reason - unoccupied most of the population. For example, in the same nursing homes, many disabilities are left to themselves, they have no special something is not engaged. Labor process (occupational therapy) for elderly and disabled is limited only by manufacturing tortovyh boxes and wreaths, and even something some sewing. From the entertainment - a game of dominoes yes chess with checkers. That's all. Therefore, in nursing homes disabilities drink ruin oneself by drink, die. This is despite the fact that someone could easily do some real, useful work - watch repair, painting, sports, etc. Talents abound.

But the majority, sadly, eke out a gray, meaningless existence. No prospects. Vodka - the only "joy" that they actually stayed. Therefore, for this prepared to literally everything, without any regret parting with the last of his money.

Often resort to alcohol, hoping to enjoy a pleasant mood, reduce mental stress, fatigue silence, moral frustration, escape from reality with its endless worries and feelings. One think that alcohol helps to overcome the psychological barrier, to establish emotional contact, for others, especially minors, it seems a means of self-affirmation, an indicator of "courage" and "maturity". People with disabilities are not an exception.

In what conditions they live in a boarding house: the stench, the broken walls. All rot, runs, falls apart. For overhaul of money forever missing. Clothing is issued, but what is: a standard shoe size - 40-44, underwear - 60-66. Monotonous meals: daily for dinner with mashed potatoes with the fish, roll (or cookies) and tea. Soap, 100 grams given once a quarter. So many people living in a boarding house at 25 per cent of the pension (the other part of the pension - 75 percent - according to the law shown in the account of the orphanage), go out and buy everything: personal hygiene items, clothing, food (although the same law is all should be provided free of charge and in full!).

And who has to live in the ward? With former prisoners and chronic alcoholics. Mat on the mat. Theft. Between staff and residents have no respect, mutual understanding: for the first - only to somehow work out the change and quickly escape from the nightmare of "the family, for others - if only to" non dropwise, left alone and not taken the vodka. " It is only in ministerial reports all is well, people in nursing homes live up to the mark, and all are provided.

Alcohol also impairs the ability to be responsive to what is happening. People away from reality. Voluntary - hence the abuse. Do not care that because of this cause appreciable harm to health. The main thing is that you nowhere and do not need to be addressed. No problems, cases, too. Thoughts no longer cause anguish not disturb the conscience. Feeling disability completely disappears, you will not belong to official walls. You deceived all: Director, head physician - had fled from them, their notations, pricks. If you take away the last penny of the pension, then fool around a lot, someone he would grant a loan. It's a blessing. Happiness is a drunk person with disabilities.

Someone, of course, do not understand. Until a certain time, while he does not find yourself in a situation where all of the adversities and challenges to howl like a wolf like. Destiny - it is an insidious thing, no one believed. Today you're young, physically healthy, successful in business, but tomorrow is any incident, armed thugs attacked at the entrance of his house - and the metamorphosis, you have no ... Disabled. Homeless. In a word, an outcast of society. Scary.

By the way, the murder in nursing homes due to abuse of alcohol - an event even though out of the ordinary, but it does happen periodically. I Disabled the first group are not transportable, in ordinary prisons can not arrest, not calculated in terms of conditions of detention. Dispense with the trial, medical opinion. Nuthouse - the place, just for people with disabilities. And then one way - a psycho-neurological boarding. However, this is generally not accepted to speak at all. No excuses, no statistic is not kept. Yes, and in the internal affairs of the orphanage from the outside is off limits. Expensive, the extra headache.

Still, the problems will not go away. Happiness, not happiness, and alcohol abuse - bad job. As clear as twice two is four. Suicide. Stay in a psychiatric hospital. Then is it worth doing this? But live-it is still necessary, despite everything, in spite of everything. Escape into another world always prosper. There is no such that any problem had no solution. If a strong desire, tenacity and dedication of all can be achieved. The problem of alcohol abuse is no exception, sooner or later, it too can be solved.

How? In general terms ... Well, for one step of the action (not on paper and the records!) To combat illegal vodka substitutes and vodka ... Establish an effective system of psychological and social adaptation to new conditions of life that would include measures to promote healthy lifestyles and protect the mental health of children, as well as measures for the medical, psychological and social assistance to people experiencing stress (medical and psychological counseling, hotline and etc.) ...

When it comes to nursing homes, then there must be substantially revised all politics! Why, for example, do not attach homes to businesses in exchange for tax breaks? It would really allowed to open when boarding production sites, which would be significantly diverted over most of those tenants who do not know what you can "kill" time. In addition, create in nursing homes and social psychological services - many problems would be solved by themselves! All of this, I am confident will significantly reduce the moral degradation.

Alcohol - is not only trouble the individual, but the disease of society as a whole. Only by joint efforts and constructive-concrete actions our country can pull out of the terrible whirlpool of vices.

How Can I Make Myself Part With Her Beloved?

Love - that's fine. But, unfortunately, it tends to fade, change your appearance, lost, tortured, leads to depression and nervous breakdowns ... And sometimes it seems that both sides would be better if to end the relationship and remain friends. What to do if the head once the thought came, "must leave", and heart while shouting "do not"?

First, of course, somehow decide here with this dilemma, "it is necessary - not necessary". It's one thing if something in the relationship is not satisfied, but a chance to save them, to improve - there is. If you are just a period of temporary difficulties and misunderstandings. Other, if it is true you along is worse than one at a time, if you are not compatible in this life.

Admission is simple: take a piece of paper and divide it vertically into two parts. On one side write the pluses of your relationship, and the other cons. If plus more: more likely you are now "just going through a difficult period. In this case you should try to understand the current situation, to find a solution and live again in harmony and love. If the left and right columns are equal, it is better to think seriously about the current relationship, discuss things with his half. And after some time again to take the paper and divide it into two parts.

Finally the last option: minus categorically outweigh all the positive things that are between you. In this case, whatever is in love crying heart, the conclusion is that it's time you give up and stop torturing each other.

But the heart continues to cry and after all hope of his silence is not so simple, but at heart there is always hope for a last chance. Well - give yourself it. But remember: it is the latter. And it is not eternal. Stretch "pleasure" of separation in any case impossible.

Now inhale deeply, take a list of pluses and minuses in his hands and started to work. First, identify the main drawbacks, pieces three, maximum five. And the coolest thing. For what? To tell them the favorite / favorite. After all, you have the last chance for two. That work should be two of them.

Once to not offend, not cause rejection, start with the good. Just for this, and were selected by several major pluses in your list. If the first person to praise (just honestly and sincerely!), It is easier to keep his attention and say unpleasant things. Say "I love our walks together with you in the evenings, and always melt when you smile in the morning, but it does not outweigh the fact that ..." And now that the list of "buts". Briefly, the main thing. Does not require that you once promised to "I do so I will not." You do not immediately come to serious conclusions, so let the other person think. Ask him to also tell you after a while that does not suit him. And, most importantly, both think about how you think, we could solve the problem.

And one more thing: time. His need to define precisely and unequivocally. Tell yourself and your love: "if we are to a certain number do not reach a consensus at least on these points - we leave."

If a notice period, your list will not be erased major disadvantages: give yourself another chance to love and be loved. But even with another person. And this release. Say thank you for all that list of pros, sorry for the whole list of cons and wish happiness and new love. And, God forbid, he wants you to do the same.

How to Deal With A Woman is Depressed?

There is a phrase women, men unbearable. That is intolerable female phrases are not one but many, but one is especially unbearable. This is when the woman suddenly, for some reason it is often sudden, absolutely nothing to do with, seemingly all of a sudden says: "I am so tired." Of course a woman, and even our Russian, have something to be tired - work, farming, shopping, children, and some even worse - her husband. But, pronouncing the sacramental "I'm tired," a woman has in mind is not that it dragged the day sleepers, and in the evening plowing through the house - no!

It generally is not about physical fatigue, but of some other, which neither understand nor explain the impossible. Here is a man and infuriates, because it is not clear what her answer. Say: "I'm too tired"? I do not advise. For this to hear a lot about it, tired of what these goats-men, that even if you're really tired after her monologue, as fatigue will lift a hand! Perhaps in response to its policy statement to take and keep silent? Just like to note - say, tired and weary. No, it is also not recommended. For it was not for this woman uttered, that the man did not say anything!

It should also be noted that mournful statement on fatigue woman does not only in the most unexpected moment, but in most inappropriate places. For example, not at the controls of the combine or at the loom - it would be quite understandable, but, say, amid the din of the ball or on a sunny beach - which does inexplicable. Incidentally, although we are talking about Russian women, for the sake of objectivity we must admit that it was not her invention. Take any soap opera or a serious foreign film - the same picture. Having exhausted all claims against the man, and not knowing that he has to show, crying Latina: "How tired I am, Pedro Julio Alberto Don Carlos ibn Hotab!

To put it bluntly: man, too, can be tiring. Concrete - cut wood, coached water sketched coals into the furnace ... But non-specific fatigue woman literally a man! After all, say it - I'm tired of wearing a potato, he would have brought her this potato. Maybe ... Admit it - I'm tired to clean the apartment, he would have her vacuum cleaner. Perhaps ... And she said - I'm tired of hanging around the stove, he would have made her a sandwich. Probably ... But the answer to an entirely abstract and entirely unmotivated message woman, the man does not know.

We can advise only one thing - when you hear this senseless sacramental phrase, count to ten in your mind and just as brief and meaningless answer: "Tired?" Relax! ". Guaranteed results promise to be, but the best answer so far not found ...

How to Check the Compatibility of People from a Position of Feng Shui?

Compatibility of people - this is a very urgent problem in modern society. This is the subject of numerous studies and many psychologists and educators.

Does not preclude their interest in this subject and feng shui approach to this issue with him, of course, differs from the approach of psychology and pedagogy. Feng Shui determines the compatibility of people mainly based on the principle of mutual relations of elements, although this is not the only way.

The technique of feng shui is such thing as a cycle of creation and destruction of elements of the cycle, and every person belongs to one of these elements.

After all, we are quite naturally drawn to those whose elements are in the cycle of generation located on both sides of our element. On the other hand, there is a likelihood that those people whose elements are combined with our in a cycle of destruction will be our antagonists. The science of Feng Shui for many years research has stereotyped patterns of relations between the elements, and, based on such relationship, feng shui offers an analysis of human relationships.

Of course, such an analysis of relations in the first place considering marriage, but, nevertheless, they can be applied in the plane of cooperation and partnership of people.

Land and land. This combination is favorable - each of the parties to such a pair would first think about the welfare of others. Although the part of the relationship of this pair may seem presnovatymi, in fact, they are deep and sensual. Some problems may arise when the stubbornness of one encounter with the stubbornness of the other, because by nature the representatives of the element earth quite stubborn. However, the good will always deadlock can be resolved.

Earth and metal. The combination of these elements is considered optimal, because these elements have always supported and respected each other can always admire each other. Metal is by its nature is very patient, which is favorable for any relationship. And the earth with his hand is not always immediately make decisions, and because the patience of the metal in this combination could not be more helpful. The financial position of the union (marriage or partnership) will be strong, because the land will always contribute to the implementation of material ambitions of the metal.

Land and water. In such a combination is possible misunderstandings. Land will ensure stability, which is not enough water. On the other hand being stubborn earth can cause irritation of the water. With regard to the business part of life, they can be quite effective, because the creativity of one another and common sense can lead to greater success. Items associated with the element of metal, can effectively neutralize the conflicts that arise in this combination.

Land and tree. As the tree sap is fed land, draining it, this combination can be unfavorable. The land is very conservative and cautious, while the tree is always striving for change and development. But such an alliance can be successful only if the parties can set aside their ambitions and want to help each other. Objects belonging to the element fire, would effectively neutralize the negative aspects of such an alliance.

Metal and metal. Parties to such an alliance understand each other well, but, nevertheless, in this case, as in other periods of good relations can be accompanied by a temporary cooling. Although the foreign relations of this pair and mogutpokazatsya far better, in fact it is not always so. The fact that people belonging to the element of metal, quite independent and like to do things their own way, but in the main representatives of this element perfectly get along with each other and form a strong alliance.

Metal and water. This combination is very successful because the parties always tend to support each other. Representatives of these elements are endowed with insight, they are also able to communicate effectively with each other on a subconscious level. Metal helps to ensure that water does not yield to adverse external influences, and the water teaches metal with great effectiveness to express their feelings and do not cling to the past.

Metal and wood. In the relationship of this pair is difficult, because the representatives of these elements tend to be a leader. Wood - an element more sociable, while the metal is prone to loneliness, which will act on the nerves companionable tree. Both elements are endowed with a sense of responsibility. However, the tendency of wood to flexibility and compromise, may narrow the differences. Metal is often to be on the brink of despair by the fact that the tree always strives for perfection. Once again: only the ability and willingness to compromise can make this union safe.

Water and water. Such an alliance is considered to be very successful. Side this pair of deeply felt affinity and are able to guess the desires of each other. This is a very harmonious couple, not subject to alien influences. They complement each other, giving each other confidence in their abilities and future.

Water and wood. This union is pretty well off, as water nourishes wood, wood and water helps, because it gives stability and sense of self worth. Water gives wood the ability to sympathize and help him express themselves. On the other hand, the tree gives the water power and stability. Inside a pair formed an intuitive understanding, since both elements are honest and considerate to each other.

Wood and wood. This alliance is very harmonious. Wood leads an active life, and the two trees are connected by marriage, it becomes even more active and concerned (principle unison), they have mass hobbies, they tend to succeed in life. We already know that one of the characteristics of the tree - patience, their union is strong, and the sides are always ready to help each other.

Fire and flames. This pair will be performed enthusiasm, its representatives will be charged each other optimistic, creating a pretty powerful combination. They will awaken in each other the best quality, and their union will be a long and happy.

Fire and earth. This couple is very harmonious. If the fire will have a strong imagination, then the property of the land - high sensitivity. This combination determines the excellent relations between the spouses (and partners).

Fire and metal. In the relations between such a pair can be difficult, because fire melts metal. Anyone who belongs to the element fire, will attempt to subjugate the other member of the Union, and this can lead to big trouble. The fire will have a devastating effect on the metal, but on the other hand, the metal will be strongly against it, and, in turn, destroy the nervous system of the fire. Save the situation in such a situation can help a good sense of humor in both partners and the high mutual respect. Such tactics are vital and will continue to help them overcome family difficulties and misunderstandings (from my own experience of the author). This pair should be kept in the house (within marriage) any subject related to the element earth, such an object would be to neutralize the negative aspects of a combination of fire and metal.

Fire and water. As water extinguishes fire, the combination is often poor. Although the entrepreneurial fire may be supplemented by the creative component of water, and fire can inspire water. Both sides of this alliance are endowed with great ability to communicate, but fire and water do not always understand each other. Objects belonging to the element tree (in the area of the family) will help neutralize the negative aspects of combining fire and water.

The fire and wood. This combination of elements considered to be very harmonious. Impulsiveness fire stabilizing element of the tree. On the other hand, the energy of fire is pushing a tree of considerable accomplishment. Representatives of both elements by nature optimists, they form a union, inclined to seek a new one.

Such, in general terms the properties of alliances formed by various elements. Of course, I did not put here to completely exhaust all the nuances and particularities of different combinations, and gave only the basic idea of what to expect from a marriage. I wish you success in human relations.

Where to Find the Harmony of Relationships?

They say a man and woman - come from different planets. They need to adapt to live in peace and harmony, as they can never properly understand each other, not attached to this effort ... It is foolish to be a harmonious relationship as merely the result of deliberate diplomacy. Mutual desire for each other must be manifested in a natural way. Nobody is trying to make recommendations as necessary to go in what order to rearrange his feet when walking on sharp stones or on the implement bridge across the gorge. Then why so much talk about how to build an ideal family than to attract a man or keep him? ..

Once centipede was asked:

- How do you manage it all, how do you decide what pace for what should be rearranged? A hundred feet! You go

so smoothly. How do you get such harmony?

- I attended all my life and never thought about it, - said the centipede. - Dai, I think.

And here she closed her eyes and wondered for the first time - how to properly rearrange his feet, and then tried to go. She has always lived and gone, but now it turns out that it is difficult, almost impossible. She fell to the ground - because as you run hundreds of feet? Now she has a problem, she get into despair.

Their questions and desire to find a logical explanation for everything, without exception, we kill their nature, and with it a mysterious charm of sensuality. Mankind rushed to the pursuit of knowledge, arming the path of new technologies that improve our capabilities. But what we have done in order to be happy?

The man was able to determine the size and the way the planets are never seen to open and use radio waves to the perception that he had no sensory receptors, see things a million times smaller than those available to his eye, and, frustrated by the fact that science has not brought the it fortunately was able to create such myths as the myth of Eve, a thirst for knowledge is doomed to suffer all the generations of people.

Each alone in finding his own happiness, and no research can not change anything. And should I change anything? In the history of civilization, humans have not been able to make sure that all their joint efforts will not lead to the goal sought by the people - to be happy.

Happiness is ... It defies description, and especially the study. It is and it is close, so close that we can not guess.

According to one legend, the gods of the east, creating the universe, first created the stars, sun, moon, sea, mountains, flowers and clouds. Then - the man. And finally, they create a true, who decided to hide so that the man had to search it. "Let's hide it on the mountain top" - said one. "And maybe at the farthest star?" - Asked another. "It is better to hide her in the dark depths of the sea" - said a third. "Or hide on the back side of the moon" - has offered a fourth. And here is the little god said: "No, we'll put it in the human heart. And he will look for it everywhere, not knowing what is truth in itself."

When can we refuse to find an explanation, when we can uncompromisingly take your heart, then we find the truth and find happiness.Allow yourself to be natural, such as nature created us, open yourself to be happy and let the beautiful into your life.

Two people are able to understand without words when they speak the same language. Everyone has their own language, originating from the depths of his inner world. A man and a woman speaks the same language, understand, feel each other when their worlds are similar, and hearts are open for happiness. They respect this inner world and help him grow up, finding joy in their development.
 

There are two ways of life - to live openly, enriching their inner world, or to live indoors, degrading and slowly dying. Two people living together, are able to help each other or grow or decay. You just have to choose the path ...