Wednesday, April 27, 2011

How Can I Make Myself Part With Her Beloved?

Love - that's fine. But, unfortunately, it tends to fade, change your appearance, lost, tortured, leads to depression and nervous breakdowns ... And sometimes it seems that both sides would be better if to end the relationship and remain friends. What to do if the head once the thought came, "must leave", and heart while shouting "do not"?

First, of course, somehow decide here with this dilemma, "it is necessary - not necessary". It's one thing if something in the relationship is not satisfied, but a chance to save them, to improve - there is. If you are just a period of temporary difficulties and misunderstandings. Other, if it is true you along is worse than one at a time, if you are not compatible in this life.

Admission is simple: take a piece of paper and divide it vertically into two parts. On one side write the pluses of your relationship, and the other cons. If plus more: more likely you are now "just going through a difficult period. In this case you should try to understand the current situation, to find a solution and live again in harmony and love. If the left and right columns are equal, it is better to think seriously about the current relationship, discuss things with his half. And after some time again to take the paper and divide it into two parts.

Finally the last option: minus categorically outweigh all the positive things that are between you. In this case, whatever is in love crying heart, the conclusion is that it's time you give up and stop torturing each other.

But the heart continues to cry and after all hope of his silence is not so simple, but at heart there is always hope for a last chance. Well - give yourself it. But remember: it is the latter. And it is not eternal. Stretch "pleasure" of separation in any case impossible.

Now inhale deeply, take a list of pluses and minuses in his hands and started to work. First, identify the main drawbacks, pieces three, maximum five. And the coolest thing. For what? To tell them the favorite / favorite. After all, you have the last chance for two. That work should be two of them.

Once to not offend, not cause rejection, start with the good. Just for this, and were selected by several major pluses in your list. If the first person to praise (just honestly and sincerely!), It is easier to keep his attention and say unpleasant things. Say "I love our walks together with you in the evenings, and always melt when you smile in the morning, but it does not outweigh the fact that ..." And now that the list of "buts". Briefly, the main thing. Does not require that you once promised to "I do so I will not." You do not immediately come to serious conclusions, so let the other person think. Ask him to also tell you after a while that does not suit him. And, most importantly, both think about how you think, we could solve the problem.

And one more thing: time. His need to define precisely and unequivocally. Tell yourself and your love: "if we are to a certain number do not reach a consensus at least on these points - we leave."

If a notice period, your list will not be erased major disadvantages: give yourself another chance to love and be loved. But even with another person. And this release. Say thank you for all that list of pros, sorry for the whole list of cons and wish happiness and new love. And, God forbid, he wants you to do the same.

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