Truth and falsehood are intertwined in our lives. Typically, we adults are well aware, what distorts or ignores the true state of affairs. And children? What motivates them to invent naive incredible stories, to expose that sometimes there is no difficulty?
Kids do not lie. Until about the age of four, they generally do not distinguish between the concepts of "lies" and "truth" any allegation accept at face value, do and say whatever they want. To achieve their goals, they just express their desires and emotions - crying, or arrange hysterical scandals, if parents ignore their requests.
Since the beginning of the formation of creative thinking the picture changes. Begins a period of "white lies. At this stage, the distortion of the truth - is quite a natural phenomenon. Children fantasize and tell different stories, confused and unable to separate truth from fiction, wishful thinking. No need to punish a child for the imagination. On the contrary, it should be encouraged and given every opportunity to develop creative thinking.
Deliberate lie is about the age of ten, with the advent of the capacity for reflection. But the period of childhood fantasies can and delayed if the child has a need for this. Virtuoso lied, he drew attention to themselves to look better and gain prestige among peers.
Sometimes, the child is so fond of telling lies that almost does not tell the truth. Live in the fictional world it is easier than real. The reason is that these children lack the understanding and sympathy, peers do not take them into their circle.
Aggressive children tend to lie less than obedient good girl. Manifestation of aggression - direct (fight) or verbal (swearing) - allows the one hand, let off steam, on the other - raise the credibility of the aggressor in tineydzherskoy environment.
Girls are more peaceful than boys, more emotional, irrational and resentful. Therefore, saving for the image lies found in their environment much more often.
Awareness of lies as such, what is bad, usually causes the child-specific external reaction, allowing easy to understand that the child is cheating. For example, involuntary attempt to cover her mouth, the excitement and glow on the cheeks, frequent blinking, a reluctance to look into the eyes, or, conversely, defiant "honest" opinion. The child feels guilty, afraid of being exposed. To lie sounded convincing, he begins to look up words, pronounce them hesitantly, with unusual intonation. Who knows, "Son," a better parent? Pay attention to the nuances of speech, behavior, and everything will fall into place.
Psychologists do not recommend punishing the little liar. Analyze the motivation lies. Can you blame yourself? Maybe your requirements are excessive, and lies - an attempt to facilitate children's natural life?
Give your child understand that a lie is not necessary that you love him, accept and support in any situation. If so, and scolding, do not baby, and his actions. And do not forget to praise for the sincerity. For the fact that even in difficult situations a son or daughter found the strength to all fairly and without reserve to tell her parents.
Kids do not lie. Until about the age of four, they generally do not distinguish between the concepts of "lies" and "truth" any allegation accept at face value, do and say whatever they want. To achieve their goals, they just express their desires and emotions - crying, or arrange hysterical scandals, if parents ignore their requests.
Since the beginning of the formation of creative thinking the picture changes. Begins a period of "white lies. At this stage, the distortion of the truth - is quite a natural phenomenon. Children fantasize and tell different stories, confused and unable to separate truth from fiction, wishful thinking. No need to punish a child for the imagination. On the contrary, it should be encouraged and given every opportunity to develop creative thinking.
Deliberate lie is about the age of ten, with the advent of the capacity for reflection. But the period of childhood fantasies can and delayed if the child has a need for this. Virtuoso lied, he drew attention to themselves to look better and gain prestige among peers.
Sometimes, the child is so fond of telling lies that almost does not tell the truth. Live in the fictional world it is easier than real. The reason is that these children lack the understanding and sympathy, peers do not take them into their circle.
Aggressive children tend to lie less than obedient good girl. Manifestation of aggression - direct (fight) or verbal (swearing) - allows the one hand, let off steam, on the other - raise the credibility of the aggressor in tineydzherskoy environment.
Girls are more peaceful than boys, more emotional, irrational and resentful. Therefore, saving for the image lies found in their environment much more often.
Awareness of lies as such, what is bad, usually causes the child-specific external reaction, allowing easy to understand that the child is cheating. For example, involuntary attempt to cover her mouth, the excitement and glow on the cheeks, frequent blinking, a reluctance to look into the eyes, or, conversely, defiant "honest" opinion. The child feels guilty, afraid of being exposed. To lie sounded convincing, he begins to look up words, pronounce them hesitantly, with unusual intonation. Who knows, "Son," a better parent? Pay attention to the nuances of speech, behavior, and everything will fall into place.
Psychologists do not recommend punishing the little liar. Analyze the motivation lies. Can you blame yourself? Maybe your requirements are excessive, and lies - an attempt to facilitate children's natural life?
Give your child understand that a lie is not necessary that you love him, accept and support in any situation. If so, and scolding, do not baby, and his actions. And do not forget to praise for the sincerity. For the fact that even in difficult situations a son or daughter found the strength to all fairly and without reserve to tell her parents.
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