Why Lie to The Children?

Truth and falsehood are intertwined in our lives. Typically, we adults are well aware, what distorts or ignores the true state of affairs. And children? What motivates them to invent naive incredible stories, to expose that sometimes there is no difficulty?

Kids do not lie. Until about the age of four, they generally do not distinguish between the concepts of "lies" and "truth" any allegation accept at face value, do and say whatever they want. To achieve their goals, they just express their desires and emotions - crying, or arrange hysterical scandals, if parents ignore their requests.

Since the beginning of the formation of creative thinking the picture changes. Begins a period of "white lies. At this stage, the distortion of the truth - is quite a natural phenomenon. Children fantasize and tell different stories, confused and unable to separate truth from fiction, wishful thinking. No need to punish a child for the imagination. On the contrary, it should be encouraged and given every opportunity to develop creative thinking.

Deliberate lie is about the age of ten, with the advent of the capacity for reflection. But the period of childhood fantasies can and delayed if the child has a need for this. Virtuoso lied, he drew attention to themselves to look better and gain prestige among peers.

Sometimes, the child is so fond of telling lies that almost does not tell the truth. Live in the fictional world it is easier than real. The reason is that these children lack the understanding and sympathy, peers do not take them into their circle.

Aggressive children tend to lie less than obedient good girl. Manifestation of aggression - direct (fight) or verbal (swearing) - allows the one hand, let off steam, on the other - raise the credibility of the aggressor in tineydzherskoy environment.

Girls are more peaceful than boys, more emotional, irrational and resentful. Therefore, saving for the image lies found in their environment much more often.

Awareness of lies as such, what is bad, usually causes the child-specific external reaction, allowing easy to understand that the child is cheating. For example, involuntary attempt to cover her mouth, the excitement and glow on the cheeks, frequent blinking, a reluctance to look into the eyes, or, conversely, defiant "honest" opinion. The child feels guilty, afraid of being exposed. To lie sounded convincing, he begins to look up words, pronounce them hesitantly, with unusual intonation. Who knows, "Son," a better parent? Pay attention to the nuances of speech, behavior, and everything will fall into place.

Psychologists do not recommend punishing the little liar. Analyze the motivation lies. Can you blame yourself? Maybe your requirements are excessive, and lies - an attempt to facilitate children's natural life?

Give your child understand that a lie is not necessary that you love him, accept and support in any situation. If so, and scolding, do not baby, and his actions. And do not forget to praise for the sincerity. For the fact that even in difficult situations a son or daughter found the strength to all fairly and without reserve to tell her parents.

When and Why to Say "NO"?

If we want to open yourself up again and live this life, we must find the courage to say no to those things which do not serve us - Barbara De Angelis.

Sometimes there are situations when you do not say "no" is simply impossible. For example, a colleague wants to "ask you a favor, and you and themselves worries mouthful, let alone other people's problems to you! But for some reason we are sometimes willing to sacrifice themselves in order to please others, and so at the request of doom say: "Yes" - mentally already wondering what we have to sacrifice.

Unwillingness to give the failure may be caused by many reasons. Fear of being branded vredinoy, fear to offend people, lose his confidence, etc. Often encountered people who, in addition to their own duties still a bunch of strangers, instead of getting only frustration and discontent itself.

Where did this strange desire to please everyone? A person's character is laid in childhood. We are soft, like clay, and absorb other people's words and behavior, like a sponge, so one of us can create any sort of personality. Unfortunately, some parents confuse well-mannered child and trained dogs. Often, aid - the only thing children receive encouragement. Unfortunately, children still difficult to understand the difference between the desire to serve and help. As an adult, a person instinctively waiting for their service award as a child, but, of course, does not get it.

Is this desire? No one says that the same assistance to parents - it's bad, and the child must do everything in spite of their parents, to any sensible request for responding to a sharp "no". However, an important role here is motivation. Not "a good boy, brought the" five ", pleased parents", and "how well you like to learn how much you know and you know how!". In general, "forget about yourself, do to others" - the theory is not true, unless you're a masochist.

How many times have you helped your colleagues, friends, relatives who artlessly dump on you all their problems, and how many times you were actually rewarded for it? Unfortunately, wait, that one fine morning you wake up and you will fall thanks and benefits provided to you once the service is not necessary. And then who will think of yourself?

A situation where I must say "no." Usually the man himself recognizes this situation. Are you familiar with anticipation when you hear the telephone voice of friend that you now again, something will be asked? And you even know where you have such a belief: there was not one time that she did not ask about the next service.

It is worth considering: Are there really is good for you dating? Are you getting some benefit from communicating with this person? And if you ask the same thing that will tell you?

You've probably heard something like: "Ivanov - vredina. About anything ask the impossible! And earns a best! "? Or maybe not so bad? And that Ivanov - not a bad person, he simply knows his worth and can not ride on his colleagues and boss - free to exploit their labor?

Around a lot of successful people envious, but these people secretly admire and want to be like them, here are taken from this and similar slander. To tell you the truth, such talk is still very few people from the harms discussed.

Perhaps, you have to start saying "no" when you really want to refuse? You will have more free time, there will be a sense of confidence in myself: I'm doing as I want!

Why Do Not We Love Those Who Love Us Now?

There was a time when men like and women allowed or not allowed, the men offered, and the women agreed or refused. Active side lived hopes and rivalry, passive - suspenseful and fear that rejected passable version of the proposal will not repeat, but the best will not. If supply and demand anything like match, then there is an everlasting covenant, which is most often a woman asked to swallow pride and expect that "endure. Decision was made once and for all, by having a couple became isolated in his little world family and those who had yet to make a choice of love, his presence is not embarrassed. But how many passions, when two men rushed at once to one of beauty! Love Triangle, a favorite theme of world literature, the most powerful experience in a variety of fates.

Now is not that. There was a couple - and okay, so be it. Pray thee together and get loose. And while they are bored with each other, we can increase their attractiveness and attention to strengthen the interest to yourself.

Bright and dangerous rivalry - why? What did not work right, you get then, we just have to wait for the moment, to want a lot and believe in yourself. Any student group - it is only increasing with time, the number of elections, because the constancy of a temporary and a new girlfriend - is access to the circle of her friends, a new friend - a breakthrough in the community of his friends. Anyone who wants more than worth it, get a chance tomorrow, more than it has today.

Thus, there exists a pair can not be regarded as a pair, there are only different values of boys and girls, each with its own height, and everyone looks for a partner higher. Most often in the next step above, because the local gods and goddesses, too, see no way down, and either equal or superior to, living somewhere outside of the group. It turns out that the inferior fellow N waiting for something from the more or less a decent girl M, and she wondered at least something worth L, and L, in turn, clings to a rather attractive to, but also has to accept someone much better than K. And so on.

Where love triangles? They would, if standing a step above mentioned strict "no", but no one hears a fool to hurt the bottom, their support and encouragement. Is that in case of excessive activity would have to put them into place. But why should anybody be lower risk if the favorite is not afraid to lose: the selection is great and a lot of time, no one takes a single - forever.

Live in love zigzags: love the best, loved the worst. Little reciprocity, reliability, and even less. In the 30 years of thinking about the same, as in 25, 20 and 15, because at maturity can not solve the problem of youth. Career doing, because it increases the attractiveness and circle of friends expands, the house somehow take care, we must also somewhere to invite friends, but the kids start, and given their upbringing - it's silly, because at any moment of a partner for a better share. Moreover, the more support and help, sacrificing himself, the sooner he does, because the winner taking on new resources and leaving sharply upward, mercilessly tearing the attachment. This is our young days, and fun for the daring, zigzag darted behind his success, and kills the innocent.

How We Appreciate the Friendship?

Relationships hold in our lives too much space. Every day we are dealing with a lot of people. Everyone wants to find his life a man who would understand him, appreciated, loved, respected. In every period of his life next to a friend. The new year may bring new friends, but that does not mean that we forget the old friends. Just a man grows, develops, and, accordingly, changed its environment.

Sometimes, meeting a person, we feel sympathy, sometimes indifferent, and sometimes rejection. Of course, we are all different, like everyone is just impossible. That's why we so want to always be near the man whom we can proudly call a friend (or girlfriend).

A man who, despite everything, can always give peace of communication, compassion, empathy and support. Your friend can call at any time, you can relax together, and the best way possible. We can discuss everything you want to discuss.

How do you determine whether your friend is "soul mate"?

Must, above all, pay attention to unusual coincidences. Is this: just think about his friend, as he calls or comes from him sms or email to e-mail. Or suddenly becomes hard on the soul, as if a cat scratch. And here: rraz! - Comes to visit your best friend. Uplifting, happy or just silently listen. Not doing anything without asking, can you reveal your soul, throw out everything that has accumulated.

Sometimes you call a friend and you think: now invited for the weekend to relax together (or something else), and he tells you what it would do just that. That is all the time are the same desires, thoughts, and where each of them there is ineffable joy. From the meeting, from the discussion of ideas. Of course, this is important also the fact that more often between friends, a lot of common interests. But I still think that this is not important.

We appreciate those who to feel affection (often a desire to make a call, talk, see). We appreciate and support. Today you have listened and supported each other, and tomorrow he will do the same. And each does so without coercion, without thinking that he owes. Desire comes from the heart.

Today, friendships can be quite different. For example, the Internet also allows you to find another. You can even never saw a man build a very trusting, frank and friendly relations. Moreover, such relations would be associated with not less close ties than the other, a neighbor living with you in one yard or one landing. Maybe someone is very difficult to believe that the virtual friendship can exist. But six years of communication via the Internet, I saw that a lot of evidence, and saw not only from the outside. And the most valuable in these respects it is - an opportunity to be yourself. Is not it is valued in good terms?

Know whether the friendship is possible only through many years. And then, perhaps, the key is just one criterion - the betrayal. Betray easily. Must always remember that friendship is created over the years, and betrayal destroys everything in an instant!

How to Stay With A Man With Just Friends?

How to do it?

First, you need to understand the man that you want from men is friendship, and not something else.

That is, firstly, you need to talk to him and explain that he was only interested in you as a friend, that as a future spouse to you it is not suitable.

Do not go into details, we should not belittle his manhood.

Suffice it to say that it just is not your style, for example. To say that you value his kindness, eloquence, and so forth, but it just - is not your type.

By the way, before the man said it all, to soften the blow, do not forget to make a man a compliment and highlight its advantages, its winning features. Compliment must necessarily be sincere and truthful.

Of course, there is a chance that after the man of your words just turn around and leave.But there is a chance that he will agree with this situation and really become your friend.

You'll call back, chat, maybe go somewhere together, and this relationship will remain friendly. That is, any hints on the future life together and sex is no longer. Here you can clearly define its position. In this case, stop flirting with him, to refrain from gestures that a man may be regarded ambiguously. Do not dress for it and try to lure him to behave modestly.

That is translating into the category of relations of friendship. Almost like a girlfriend, we can say attitude.

Those men who do not like the role of a friend, turn around and simply go away from you. And do not refer such a deed to his account. Since all people are different and can not be held around absolutely everyone. Just remember you. If a man offers you friendship and you hope for more, it is unlikely that you will want to continue a relationship with him.

Therefore, if a man makes such a decision, you should not condemn him for it. Someone will be with you, some do not. And it is absolutely normal.

Friendship implies mutual pastime mutual support. Of those men who agree to become your friends, it is unlikely all the polls will be the names of friends in the full sense of the word.

Most will simply pass into the category of friends with whom you regularly call back periodically communicate at the level of "hi-bye." This is normal.

Or do you want to be friends with absolutely all men with whom you have ever come across? I do not understand why you all this male harem? The fact that some men would take forever, perfectly normal, so be it.

Therefore, I advise you just to talk with a man, explain the situation, well, the choice to leave behind the man. As he decides, so be it.

Good luck!

What Men Do Like Women?

Women, however, like men, large owners! And naturally, the best man that which thy. Then he did the most wonderful, most dear, most beloved. Still, sometimes unconsciously, sometimes consciously women define for themselves some of the criteria, which are crucial when choosing a life partner.

What kind of man needed her?

In fact, when I ask this question of married women - I get a surprising answer. Or maybe he is not amazing? In any case, the answer is simple: the main thing that he loved me and the children.

If the same question to ask a lonely girl (young woman), then the answer is always a long one. Like the list. Smart, handsome, decent, strong, fairly wealthy, growing, and so on. Much more is contained in the sample. But the most important thing is forgotten. Or simply glossed over? However, it turns out that forgotten the most important, in my opinion. It often, Free, the thirsty man - forget that, all the same thing to a love!

Spark! Attraction! Emotions! The desire to be near, always see Him. If all this comes in, the Nature in the woman, she, of course, forget about all your "perfect fit".

So, what are they, "the ideal setup?

Almost every woman dreams of a strong-willed man. That such a man is admired by women. But not every woman is ready to admit it. Of course, in this situation, the main thing that has not been bent. Volitional - it does not mean that "I said, so be it." Strong-willed, it will feel when his woman. He thinks, and then gently say: 'Honey, I think the best way - it .... " And she will silently and submissively. If with something that disagrees, it is a strong-willed man would be able to find the strength and, most importantly, the desire to listen to his favorite woman. And she certainly try to express their views carefully, with affection and tenderness. In any case not diminished by his merits, but merely raising.

Women have always admired those men who are popular, often being in the spotlight. Why? What is important is fame? I think, not quite. Fame, of course, the fact that flatter the female ego (after all, to win such a man is not easy). But there is one more subtlety. A well-known man - it's often smart, purposeful, with a good sense of humor and most importantly - an excellent companion! But every woman knows that the time will come when they stay alone, when the dust and the heat will pass and will remain simple, usually in the evening. So, pass the evening will be much nicer if the conversation will be interesting to both.

Of course, women like gentle men. Those who will be able to give affection, to evaluate care. When a woman brings her husband coffee in bed, or in the morning, as usual, make breakfast, and maybe ironed shirt, it will actually be very nice to hear - "You are the most the most! My favorite. "

No one has repealed the truth known to all, "the woman loves the ears." Hence, no less important is the ability to man to pay compliments. Uttered without irony, with sincerity, they bribe any woman. But the main thing to take into account that women are very well aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Must be able to choose a suitable compliment, and successfully present it!

Also, women appreciate men - leaders. After all, a leader - someone who can take responsibility. And not only for their lives, but for the life of the woman, and, of course, for the children.

List goes on, it seems to infinity. This neatness, and sexuality, and the seriousness and care, and interpersonal skills.

For women, it is important to decent to them. When he appreciates, cares, loves, surrounded by attention, surprises. After all, man - it is the stronger sex. And it is precisely with such a man a woman can afford to relax, give yourself into the abyss of emotions.

How to Easily Win the Sympathy of Others?

He tries all to please, and precisely because What he is trying to please everyone, He does not like anyone.

Unfortunately, I do not remember who wrote these lines, but are captured very accurately!
You can not please everybody!

And yet ...
When you please others, they forgive your mistakes, relate to you better, more lenient, and generally make your life easier. Much!

Idle Americans even figured out that even the employees of large firms, employees, salaries can vary up to 15% with the same qualifications, but for different supervisor. Revenue is pretty unsympathetic and seller, running on a percentage of the transaction may differ by orders of magnitude (tens, hundreds and sometimes thousands of times)!

In general, cause sympathy is simply good!
Therefore, we begin immediately to learn this difficult case.

Here are a few simple rules:
1. Smile! Sincerely, generally, have fun! A fake smile only hurt you, unless you're a professional actor (or actress, who sleeps in every woman).

2. Ask for advice. This raises the self esteem of another person and is not perceived as flattery.

3. Ask for help for your small, easy for another person's service. If he fails, at least thank him for what he heard you. If you refer to it again, your chances to get what you want to be much higher.

4. Create a semblance of similarity with another person. People tend to sympathize with those who are similar to themselves at least somewhat.

5. To pay compliments. First, in the case, then, with increasing professionalism, and for no reason, just because!

6. Never speak about the missing person is bad, but good! No comments.

7. If you absolutely do not agree with the reviewer, you must first agree in the details and do not settle in the main. Then to you will be treated with greater sympathy, even if you insist on his own.

8. Talk less, listen more! Most people feel genuine sympathy for a man who can "complain". Just please do not disclose another's secret. And yet, listening, be sure to Demonstrate feedback, even if affirmative nod.

9. Increase your physical attractiveness, physical activity. If you're over thirty, try to look younger than his years. This applies not only to women!

10. Often mention the name of a person in a conversation with him. Name - is the key to the soul of another person. Turning to the stranger, first find out his name.

11. If you're upset about something or frustrated, try to calm down. Irritated people automatically provokes a negative reaction. Frustrated, unfortunately, too.

12. Demonstrate humility!
Clever and no one likes boasters! Remember how many privileges took Ivan the Fool (and the princess as a wife and half his kingdom into the bargain)!

Still, the most important advice.
Stay himself (itself) is. The most charismatic people - those who in all conditions remain ourselves!