Why Do Not We Love Those Who Love Us Now?

There was a time when men like and women allowed or not allowed, the men offered, and the women agreed or refused. Active side lived hopes and rivalry, passive - suspenseful and fear that rejected passable version of the proposal will not repeat, but the best will not. If supply and demand anything like match, then there is an everlasting covenant, which is most often a woman asked to swallow pride and expect that "endure. Decision was made once and for all, by having a couple became isolated in his little world family and those who had yet to make a choice of love, his presence is not embarrassed. But how many passions, when two men rushed at once to one of beauty! Love Triangle, a favorite theme of world literature, the most powerful experience in a variety of fates.

Now is not that. There was a couple - and okay, so be it. Pray thee together and get loose. And while they are bored with each other, we can increase their attractiveness and attention to strengthen the interest to yourself.

Bright and dangerous rivalry - why? What did not work right, you get then, we just have to wait for the moment, to want a lot and believe in yourself. Any student group - it is only increasing with time, the number of elections, because the constancy of a temporary and a new girlfriend - is access to the circle of her friends, a new friend - a breakthrough in the community of his friends. Anyone who wants more than worth it, get a chance tomorrow, more than it has today.

Thus, there exists a pair can not be regarded as a pair, there are only different values of boys and girls, each with its own height, and everyone looks for a partner higher. Most often in the next step above, because the local gods and goddesses, too, see no way down, and either equal or superior to, living somewhere outside of the group. It turns out that the inferior fellow N waiting for something from the more or less a decent girl M, and she wondered at least something worth L, and L, in turn, clings to a rather attractive to, but also has to accept someone much better than K. And so on.

Where love triangles? They would, if standing a step above mentioned strict "no", but no one hears a fool to hurt the bottom, their support and encouragement. Is that in case of excessive activity would have to put them into place. But why should anybody be lower risk if the favorite is not afraid to lose: the selection is great and a lot of time, no one takes a single - forever.

Live in love zigzags: love the best, loved the worst. Little reciprocity, reliability, and even less. In the 30 years of thinking about the same, as in 25, 20 and 15, because at maturity can not solve the problem of youth. Career doing, because it increases the attractiveness and circle of friends expands, the house somehow take care, we must also somewhere to invite friends, but the kids start, and given their upbringing - it's silly, because at any moment of a partner for a better share. Moreover, the more support and help, sacrificing himself, the sooner he does, because the winner taking on new resources and leaving sharply upward, mercilessly tearing the attachment. This is our young days, and fun for the daring, zigzag darted behind his success, and kills the innocent.

How We Appreciate the Friendship?

Relationships hold in our lives too much space. Every day we are dealing with a lot of people. Everyone wants to find his life a man who would understand him, appreciated, loved, respected. In every period of his life next to a friend. The new year may bring new friends, but that does not mean that we forget the old friends. Just a man grows, develops, and, accordingly, changed its environment.

Sometimes, meeting a person, we feel sympathy, sometimes indifferent, and sometimes rejection. Of course, we are all different, like everyone is just impossible. That's why we so want to always be near the man whom we can proudly call a friend (or girlfriend).

A man who, despite everything, can always give peace of communication, compassion, empathy and support. Your friend can call at any time, you can relax together, and the best way possible. We can discuss everything you want to discuss.

How do you determine whether your friend is "soul mate"?

Must, above all, pay attention to unusual coincidences. Is this: just think about his friend, as he calls or comes from him sms or email to e-mail. Or suddenly becomes hard on the soul, as if a cat scratch. And here: rraz! - Comes to visit your best friend. Uplifting, happy or just silently listen. Not doing anything without asking, can you reveal your soul, throw out everything that has accumulated.

Sometimes you call a friend and you think: now invited for the weekend to relax together (or something else), and he tells you what it would do just that. That is all the time are the same desires, thoughts, and where each of them there is ineffable joy. From the meeting, from the discussion of ideas. Of course, this is important also the fact that more often between friends, a lot of common interests. But I still think that this is not important.

We appreciate those who to feel affection (often a desire to make a call, talk, see). We appreciate and support. Today you have listened and supported each other, and tomorrow he will do the same. And each does so without coercion, without thinking that he owes. Desire comes from the heart.

Today, friendships can be quite different. For example, the Internet also allows you to find another. You can even never saw a man build a very trusting, frank and friendly relations. Moreover, such relations would be associated with not less close ties than the other, a neighbor living with you in one yard or one landing. Maybe someone is very difficult to believe that the virtual friendship can exist. But six years of communication via the Internet, I saw that a lot of evidence, and saw not only from the outside. And the most valuable in these respects it is - an opportunity to be yourself. Is not it is valued in good terms?

Know whether the friendship is possible only through many years. And then, perhaps, the key is just one criterion - the betrayal. Betray easily. Must always remember that friendship is created over the years, and betrayal destroys everything in an instant!

How to Stay With A Man With Just Friends?

How to do it?

First, you need to understand the man that you want from men is friendship, and not something else.

That is, firstly, you need to talk to him and explain that he was only interested in you as a friend, that as a future spouse to you it is not suitable.

Do not go into details, we should not belittle his manhood.

Suffice it to say that it just is not your style, for example. To say that you value his kindness, eloquence, and so forth, but it just - is not your type.

By the way, before the man said it all, to soften the blow, do not forget to make a man a compliment and highlight its advantages, its winning features. Compliment must necessarily be sincere and truthful.

Of course, there is a chance that after the man of your words just turn around and leave.But there is a chance that he will agree with this situation and really become your friend.

You'll call back, chat, maybe go somewhere together, and this relationship will remain friendly. That is, any hints on the future life together and sex is no longer. Here you can clearly define its position. In this case, stop flirting with him, to refrain from gestures that a man may be regarded ambiguously. Do not dress for it and try to lure him to behave modestly.

That is translating into the category of relations of friendship. Almost like a girlfriend, we can say attitude.

Those men who do not like the role of a friend, turn around and simply go away from you. And do not refer such a deed to his account. Since all people are different and can not be held around absolutely everyone. Just remember you. If a man offers you friendship and you hope for more, it is unlikely that you will want to continue a relationship with him.

Therefore, if a man makes such a decision, you should not condemn him for it. Someone will be with you, some do not. And it is absolutely normal.

Friendship implies mutual pastime mutual support. Of those men who agree to become your friends, it is unlikely all the polls will be the names of friends in the full sense of the word.

Most will simply pass into the category of friends with whom you regularly call back periodically communicate at the level of "hi-bye." This is normal.

Or do you want to be friends with absolutely all men with whom you have ever come across? I do not understand why you all this male harem? The fact that some men would take forever, perfectly normal, so be it.

Therefore, I advise you just to talk with a man, explain the situation, well, the choice to leave behind the man. As he decides, so be it.

Good luck!

What Men Do Like Women?

Women, however, like men, large owners! And naturally, the best man that which thy. Then he did the most wonderful, most dear, most beloved. Still, sometimes unconsciously, sometimes consciously women define for themselves some of the criteria, which are crucial when choosing a life partner.

What kind of man needed her?

In fact, when I ask this question of married women - I get a surprising answer. Or maybe he is not amazing? In any case, the answer is simple: the main thing that he loved me and the children.

If the same question to ask a lonely girl (young woman), then the answer is always a long one. Like the list. Smart, handsome, decent, strong, fairly wealthy, growing, and so on. Much more is contained in the sample. But the most important thing is forgotten. Or simply glossed over? However, it turns out that forgotten the most important, in my opinion. It often, Free, the thirsty man - forget that, all the same thing to a love!

Spark! Attraction! Emotions! The desire to be near, always see Him. If all this comes in, the Nature in the woman, she, of course, forget about all your "perfect fit".

So, what are they, "the ideal setup?

Almost every woman dreams of a strong-willed man. That such a man is admired by women. But not every woman is ready to admit it. Of course, in this situation, the main thing that has not been bent. Volitional - it does not mean that "I said, so be it." Strong-willed, it will feel when his woman. He thinks, and then gently say: 'Honey, I think the best way - it .... " And she will silently and submissively. If with something that disagrees, it is a strong-willed man would be able to find the strength and, most importantly, the desire to listen to his favorite woman. And she certainly try to express their views carefully, with affection and tenderness. In any case not diminished by his merits, but merely raising.

Women have always admired those men who are popular, often being in the spotlight. Why? What is important is fame? I think, not quite. Fame, of course, the fact that flatter the female ego (after all, to win such a man is not easy). But there is one more subtlety. A well-known man - it's often smart, purposeful, with a good sense of humor and most importantly - an excellent companion! But every woman knows that the time will come when they stay alone, when the dust and the heat will pass and will remain simple, usually in the evening. So, pass the evening will be much nicer if the conversation will be interesting to both.

Of course, women like gentle men. Those who will be able to give affection, to evaluate care. When a woman brings her husband coffee in bed, or in the morning, as usual, make breakfast, and maybe ironed shirt, it will actually be very nice to hear - "You are the most the most! My favorite. "

No one has repealed the truth known to all, "the woman loves the ears." Hence, no less important is the ability to man to pay compliments. Uttered without irony, with sincerity, they bribe any woman. But the main thing to take into account that women are very well aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Must be able to choose a suitable compliment, and successfully present it!

Also, women appreciate men - leaders. After all, a leader - someone who can take responsibility. And not only for their lives, but for the life of the woman, and, of course, for the children.

List goes on, it seems to infinity. This neatness, and sexuality, and the seriousness and care, and interpersonal skills.

For women, it is important to decent to them. When he appreciates, cares, loves, surrounded by attention, surprises. After all, man - it is the stronger sex. And it is precisely with such a man a woman can afford to relax, give yourself into the abyss of emotions.

How to Easily Win the Sympathy of Others?

He tries all to please, and precisely because What he is trying to please everyone, He does not like anyone.

Unfortunately, I do not remember who wrote these lines, but are captured very accurately!
You can not please everybody!

And yet ...
When you please others, they forgive your mistakes, relate to you better, more lenient, and generally make your life easier. Much!

Idle Americans even figured out that even the employees of large firms, employees, salaries can vary up to 15% with the same qualifications, but for different supervisor. Revenue is pretty unsympathetic and seller, running on a percentage of the transaction may differ by orders of magnitude (tens, hundreds and sometimes thousands of times)!

In general, cause sympathy is simply good!
Therefore, we begin immediately to learn this difficult case.

Here are a few simple rules:
1. Smile! Sincerely, generally, have fun! A fake smile only hurt you, unless you're a professional actor (or actress, who sleeps in every woman).

2. Ask for advice. This raises the self esteem of another person and is not perceived as flattery.

3. Ask for help for your small, easy for another person's service. If he fails, at least thank him for what he heard you. If you refer to it again, your chances to get what you want to be much higher.

4. Create a semblance of similarity with another person. People tend to sympathize with those who are similar to themselves at least somewhat.

5. To pay compliments. First, in the case, then, with increasing professionalism, and for no reason, just because!

6. Never speak about the missing person is bad, but good! No comments.

7. If you absolutely do not agree with the reviewer, you must first agree in the details and do not settle in the main. Then to you will be treated with greater sympathy, even if you insist on his own.

8. Talk less, listen more! Most people feel genuine sympathy for a man who can "complain". Just please do not disclose another's secret. And yet, listening, be sure to Demonstrate feedback, even if affirmative nod.

9. Increase your physical attractiveness, physical activity. If you're over thirty, try to look younger than his years. This applies not only to women!

10. Often mention the name of a person in a conversation with him. Name - is the key to the soul of another person. Turning to the stranger, first find out his name.

11. If you're upset about something or frustrated, try to calm down. Irritated people automatically provokes a negative reaction. Frustrated, unfortunately, too.

12. Demonstrate humility!
Clever and no one likes boasters! Remember how many privileges took Ivan the Fool (and the princess as a wife and half his kingdom into the bargain)!

Still, the most important advice.
Stay himself (itself) is. The most charismatic people - those who in all conditions remain ourselves!

What is The Story of St. Valentine's Day?

Literally, no more than ten years ago from Europe, our country has come a holiday whose popularity at the moment is very high. This holiday - Valentine's Day or Valentine's Day, and we celebrate it on February 14.
Although he is not an official, but I at least I do not know a single person who does not know of his existence, but about history knows it is not all. Its what I want to tell you.

Valentin walks of life are many legends, but know for certain only that he lived in Italy during the reign of Emperor Claudius II, who was very proud of the military prowess of his men and not so favored Christians. To preserve the military spirit of the emperor issued an edict forbidding soldiers to marry, because I thought that went into marriage too much time in the family and not busy planning for the welfare of the empire and military prowess, but his family home. Despite the imperial ban, a young priest (according to some sources, the bishop) was crowned Valentine secretly in love soldiers. There are also legends that somehow Valentin healed the blind daughter of one of Roman dignitaries, after which she fell in love with him.

Secret activity Valentine short time was a secret, and soon the rumor about her came to the emperor. The enraged emperor ordered the execution of a priest. The execution was carried out on February 14 269 years. They say also that on the night before his execution, Valentine wrote a letter full of feelings, a girl he had healed. It's just a guess, and how it was actually, we do not know and will never know, but one thing is certain - Valentine really was killed in the name of love. That's why on Valentine had not forgotten, and was elected patron saint of lovers. As a Christian martyr who suffered for their faith, he was canonized by the Catholic Church.

In Europe, the Valentine's day is celebrated with XIII, in the U.S. since the XVIII century, and at the end of XX century and came to us and gave us the opportunity at least once a year fully express all my love to our families and to show how much we love them, or to say easier - to express the feelings that we forget the rest 364 days of the year.

After learning about the history of this holiday, you could not help wonder - as well as generally accepted to celebrate it?

Traditionally, this day does not involve a great pomposity. Usually in love with this day exchanged small a token of love, the greatest popularity in our time gained fashion to give the so-called "valentines." Valentine - love letters, stanzas were first introduced gallant Frenchmen.

If you do not want to be limited to a "valentine" that in addition to it, you can still give a lot of various "signs of their love." The most extended ones kinds of souvenirs and gifts are the sweets: cookies, candy, chocolate, made in the shape of a heart.

You can also donate clothes, pets, about which so long dreamed your soul mate, romantic trips, "lucky" lottery tickets, sliced sausage hearts. Or even come up with something different.

This day is considered ideal for marriage proposal. Imagine the face of your second half, when a champagne and dessert, you stretch the box with the so-called "ring on her engagement." That's the case ...

So do not waste any opportunity and use this day to say the warmest, most intimate, the most desirable and expensive words to the man who next to you. And also open the heart to someone about the dream ...
And be happy!

What is The Effect Kisses on Our Bodies?

It is hard to imagine, but a kiss on his usual form for a long time was not known to Polynesians, the inhabitants of Madagascar, the many tribes in Africa, Eskimos, Japanese, Chinese and many other nations.

The Chinese, for example, from ancient times instead of kissing just rubbed noses. Burmese and still do not kiss, but only touch her lips and noses - "smelled" of each other. Japanese kissing very modestly, without opening his lips, looking at the same time on both sides so that no one noticed - shy.

Kissing ritual - the greatest badge of honor and friendship provided by the Russian guests, in Russia in 16-17 centuries. is a complex action, which included a mutual exchange of bows and drinking wine together. " After refreshments the owner told his wife, gorgeously dressed, go to the guest, and sip a glass of vodka, to give him his own. Sometimes the visitor as a sign of a special arrangement allowed to kiss the hostess in the mouth. According to historians, Russian, treating guests, give him his wife that he and everybody kissed her lips, and her husband calmly looks at it, and nobody can not kiss her, and then kicked out of the house. "

What is a kiss? Shakespeare calls it "the seal of our love," a witty Koleridzh says that a kiss - it's "nectar breathing, and Van de Velde believes that this is just a" pleasure paradise ". A simpler but more accurate from a medical point of view, the definition can be found in the dictionary of sexology terms and concepts.

Who, when and how the first kiss, is unknown. On this account, there are many interesting and improbable theories. One of them says that in ancient times people believed if breathing contains the soul and all the forces of man. Therefore, the connection of breath kissing called the wedding shower. Before the kiss was a sign of confidence. Giving another person to come to him so close, people showed that they are not afraid of it, which completely trust him.

During a kiss four senses - touch, smell, taste and sight - are stretched to the limit: they are engaged in learning partner. The main element of a kiss are the lips. Lips are very sensitive organ: one square centimeter here come to the surface 200 of nerve endings. Thousands of taste buds try to love the taste. Perhaps that is why love is called "sweet", and betrayal - "bitter."

Erotic lexicon leads the classification of kisses. It turns out they are dry and wet, deep and shallow, cool and sensuous. The most famous and popular is the so-called "French Kiss".

If love does not satisfy one kiss, they mix several of them. Here the main thing - creativity and surprise. You can start with a simple kiss, which is in full swing can go in posasyvanie lips, then replaced the vacuum kiss, and ends, having several stages, as well as begin - the usual kiss on the lips. Options then you can invent an infinite set.

The manner of kissing can even determine the temperament and character of the partner: if he travels on a wondrous spaces lips, kissing your ear, my neck, but not close to her lips and trying not to look in your eyes - the "hidden experimenter. He is a very sensual lover. And if you gently touch his forehead with his lips, gently kissing the cheek, like a soft brush whisks away dust with a valuable acquisition - that he "curator" This is evidence of tenderness and respect. With it you can feel safe. He will not let you down. Should be wary of "erotic vampire." He bites into your mouth as if going to suck out your soul. After kissing his lips hurt, but the tongue is covered with bruises. It is better to have a "lover - another." Before the kiss, he takes your head in your hands. Kisses, looking into your eyes. His lips slightly compressed, as if he fears that wet kiss may be too familiar. He loves to be with you. A "teddy bear" face closer to your face, hums and concerns you protruding lips, as if calling: "Beris for business." He wants to have loved and kissed him. If you love to dominate in all, it better do not you find it.

Turns out to be a kiss - it's not only a "pleasure paradise":

1. Doctors found that the "lingering" kiss a beneficial effect on our circulatory system. Indeed, during kissing pulse quickens to 110 beats per minute. This is - a great cardiovascular workout system.

2. Kiss each other more often! This is quite seriously recommend reputable Western Dental his wards, spending hundreds of dollars on treatment and prosthetics. The whole point is that a kiss is not just promoting salivation, but also increase the calcium in saliva, significantly reduces the risk of dental caries.

3. Kissing as often as possible call by German scientists. Passionate kisses are good for health. This is a good exercise - it is actively involved 34 facial muscles and burn up 150 calories, both during the 15-minute swim the crawl.

4. Kissing, we will share 9 mg of water, 0.7 g albumin, 0.18 g of organic matter, 0.7 mg fat, 0.45 mg of salt and ... 250 bacteria! But this does not mean mortal danger. In every human saliva contains enzymes and antibodies, able to withstand any infection. Besides, saliva contains androsterone - a substance stimulating sexual desire.

5. Women place greater importance on kissing than men do. Some of the women's claims that reaches orgasm from kissing. This phenomenon occurs in about 1-2% of the fairer sex.

6. Breath-holding by kissing a beneficial effect on the body - enough to remember the different techniques improving respiration, such, for example, as Pranayama Yoga. Even if not all kissing fall on "Seventh Heaven", endorphins, evolved at the same time in the blood and having narcotic effect, give a feeling of bliss and peace.

Kiss, hug, give each other affection!

What You Need to Know the Newlyweds and How to Cope With Relatives?

Wedding dress, white veil, pink lips, brown eyes. For you it is a miracle of miracles, for it you become the best of the brides ...

As is well known stormy relationship between a man and a woman ends a marriage, or one of its addresses. And if earlier, before a wedding, the young had to pass a series of trials related to this ordinance, now many can be avoided:

- Parents, I'm getting married!
- Mom and Dad, I'm getting married ...

It was such a carefree attitude towards the parents (say, my life that I want, and I do) can continue to destroy marriage. Parents - people wise, but very demanding, and if the young, it is important that they are in a relationship now, the older generation, it is important that their children will in the future.

Parents are guided only by their experience and mistakes. For young marriage - as a result of their friendly relations, a kind of proof of eternal love and devotion. Though a great poet YM Lermontov wrote:
Love, but whom? At the time, not worth the effort, but it is impossible to love forever ...

With this, of course, is debatable, but either way, all points of the "I" will put the married life. And now the couple - is a link between two families: parents, husband and wife's parents. This is where problems may arise, often domestic plan.

Housing problem remains, for many young couples open. At first, have to live with their parents. Now come to the fore: mother-in-law - father-in-law. Pleasing everyone is impossible, and family conflicts to anything. It so happened that hostile attitudes and mother-in-law, father-in law considered to be traditional. Since every mother wants her child only good, it sometimes forgets the fact that excessive involvement in the fate of the young can lead to family drama.

But the paradoxes inherent in our lives, it happens that the mother-in-law in zyate denotes no soul, and the test once all eyeing with suspicion of her husband's daughter. Often this is because a lot of love for her child, the fear that her daughter might offend, to hurt her. Father, most often, does not want to see that my daughter has grown and she has her own family.

The time of the first:
Daughter to explain her father that she loves this man. He (her husband) - its support and protection, and it is the man for the role of the father of her children. Further, the husband and wife need to talk to his father, as befits a man.

Moment Two:
It so happens that my mother my husband (in-law) can not find mutual understanding with the young bride. Love for my son - it is understandable, but sometimes such a boundless love becomes a stumbling block in family relationships. As is known, two housewives in one kitchen does not get along, and this household's theorem is proven. Women tend rivalry, and there is no longer important, because someone: her husband, son or brother. The main thing - it's a man. Mom (mother in law) says that no other woman can not love her child as she is. Mother-in-first tries to teach all the young in law, thereby undermining the authority of the matchmaker, then insisted on his ...

In such situations, suffering mostly the same man, because of which, indeed, the entire race. Quarrel between two loving and loved woman experiences it as painful as the repair. As a result, the loser may go and my mother in, and the young wife. Worst of all, if peace and solace to the man begins to look on the side. That's when the problems begin more abruptly than in Mexican soap operas, and the victory will be in the hands of a wise woman. A young wife and mother her husband just need to find a compromise, for the happiness of her beloved husband and son. This is a great deal of work on oneself, one must be able to hear if there is a chance to be heard.

Moment Three:
Important in family relationships - is understanding among all family members. If a young family lives with the parents of one of the spouses, the young must be able to compromise somewhere to keep silent, to solve problems together. Parents, in turn, must respect the views of children and deprive them of their independence. You can not split the family into two opposing camps.

If young people are lucky and the housing problem resolved, then the mother-in-law and mother in law will be much softer in their councils, because in a strange monastery with its charter, not walk. But how well will gather for a great feast the whole family in the house of the young. Here a young lady and will manifest itself in all its glory.

Relationships - they are out and the relationship to them to learn and be able to build. But how? It depends on the person. Folk wisdom says: "Gentle calf sucks two ewes."